Monday, October 8, 2012

Whose Taking Care of Mom-Mom During The Wedding?

We are making final plans for the big wedding day, and there are a ton of details to consider.  What time does the bride need to be at the gardens?  Will the groom change into his tuxedo at the wedding site?  These seem like normal questions.

When dementia enters the picture, the questions may be different.  What arrangements have been made to allow NaNa and Mom-Mom to arrive in time but not too early?  Has anyone been asked to sit with them until such time as they are escorted down the aisle?  Who will make sure these same grandmothers have all their needs met while their family is busy with the events of the day?  Who will take them home early if they desire?  Did we remember a blanket for NaNa while she is sitting in her wheelchair?  Does Mom-Mom need someone to remind her not to eat fruit?

 (Brandie and Mom-Mom)

 (Brandie and NaNa)

Planning ahead, when a loved one has dementia, is the key to a successful event.  Do not expect them to be able to participate as everyone else might.  They have limitations.  Respect those limitations, adjust your expectations to match up with their abilities, and the event will be more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Me… well I have enlisted the help of anyone and everyone who is willing to be caregivers on the big wedding day.  The more help the better.  Hope that gives you Something To Ponder.

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