Tuesday, April 2, 2013
Dementia and Eating Out
I was born and raised in the South. Of the two Carolinas, I live in SOUTH Carolina. One of the things Southerners are known for is the pleasure found in food. We love to get a group of people together and EAT.
Momma has always enjoyed having her family together. She use to cook large meals for everyone, and she often invited neighbors and church members to join us for Sunday lunch. Momma was one of those cooks who didn’t follow a recipe, but all her food was marvelous!
Dementia has changed that picture quite drastically. Momma no longer cooks (a fact with which she is quite thrilled), but the latest change is a little harder to handle for her daughters. We have recently discovered how distressing the crowds in restaurants have become for Momma. When we take her out to eat, the noise, the people, the decisions, the options, all come together to cause her stress. This stress leads to a meal that does not settle on her tummy, and it, quite honestly, is not enjoyable for her family.
Now we bring food to Momma. She totally enjoys anything and everything we bring her, she relaxes while eating, and we all have a great meal together. We are learning, daily, to adjust to the changes dementia is bringing to our lives. We don’t mind making the changes. We are thrilled to have her in our lives. Eating at a restaurant or eating at home, it just doesn’t matter.
Hope that gives you Something To Ponder.